Cliff Diving and Other Pursuits

July 30, 2011 | Follow Me On Twitter

Where’s the tipping point? You’ve climbed all the way up to the cliff top, left your t-shirt, towel and flip-flops at the bottom. This cliff face has laughed at you for weeks, hell, for years as you’ve passed on by. There have been other kids you’ve seen getting their run-up and launching themselves, that 2 seconds of free-fall before they splashdown.

The silence and bubbles before their head pops up and everyone cheers.

They did it. They jumped. There was a definitive outcome. Analyse – Decide – Climb – Jump. One of their friends, the over-analyser, he didn’t jump;

  • What about the water pressure up my nostrils?
  • If I land funny won’t I hurt my back?
  • I can’t see the bottom, what if I jag a reef?
  • What if I slip on my run and fall all of the way down?

Immediate (read: temporary) relief as he backs down from the cliff edge and doesn’t jump. Satisfied in the analysis and the safe decision.

Next time, and for every other time after that he’ll wonder. He’ll probably die wondering. Partly satisfied at those fools that jumped and live to tell the tale, but always wondering about the what if?

There has to be a tipping point for decision or indecision, a decision is black and white, there is no grey area. The anxiety from the tipping point decision lives in the grey area. Indecision isn’t deciding not to, it’s delaying the yes or no and prolonging the anxiety. Make a decision.

“Don’t complain, don’t explain.” – Henry Ford

If we spend too long in limbo (read: work, relationship, lifestyle, location, addiction) complaining about the problem we eventually congeal with the problem. There’s a blurred line between comfortable, complacent and defeated

Cynicism, anxiety, the grey area, analysis paralysis and limbo all play poker together on a Tuesday night, chomping cigars. Choose your circle of influence with caution, cynicism attacks the effect of the problem and is a monster that feeds on itself, it’s the easy way out.

Are you in Limbo? Attack the problem, not the effect. Analyse – Decide – Climb – Jump.

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  • http://www.onelovemeg.com Meg | One Love Meg

    I like the “Just Do It” method. I have learned from past experiences if I ponder over the moment too much than I back down and I end up regretting it. I am trying to instill these vibes on the bf, as he is making some big decisions right now. I find giving him a deadline and making him stick to his plan works well. :) The less anxiety and back and forth the better…. well at least that’s what I have learned. I have many more big choices ahead I am sure.

    • http://www.andrewcaldwell.org/blog Andrew Caldwell

      Yeh I’m with you there, the frustrating thing is when you’re committed long-term to something, that doesn’t really line up with your values or what you want to do ‘right now’. Eek, I’m probably being a bit vague there, something I’ll no doubt write about in the future.

      I believe you guys have pulled the trigger? I’m excited to see what comes of it.

  • http://twitter.com/almostbohemian David William

    Gaaaaaah yes man! This is exactly it! It’s been what’s been burning through my mind. I’ve been a bit of a ghost lately, but for good reason. I’ve got a lot to figure out. But life is good. And it’s all about jumping in.

    When I first started into this post, I thought, sweet, cliff jumping. Good fun, but dangerous. I knew a guy who broke his neck and drowned, so I don’t take this stuff lightly.

    But then you hooked in the real work application and I felt dumb for not seeing it. So yeah, I’m ready to jump. Shoot, I may already have!

    • http://www.andrewcaldwell.org/blog Andrew Caldwell

      Staying focused has to be number one, I’m kind of counselling myself here to. The cliff diving thing, it’s instant, decide, climb, jump, rejoice. It’s the long-term bigger picture shit that’s the headache. Analyse, decide, re-analyse, second guess etc..

      So staying focused on the end goal/bigger picture versus getting worked up over the day to day shit, I think that’s a bigger challenge.

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